I recently did a poll on my Instagram story asking what type of blog posts you guys wanted to see more of. A majority of you wanted to see more personal posts, so I’m hoping to start writing more of those! Sometimes it’s hard to find the inspiration, or try to figure out exactly what I want to say, and how I want to say it. This week I knew I had to talk about a topic that has been on my mind a lot lately, and that’s the future. The unknown scares a lot of us, and the future is just that, it’s unknown. As another year comes to a close, I can’t help but think heavily on what my next move is, and how I’m going to make that happen. Honestly, I have no clue what that move should be, but I have found myself sitting around stressing about it at night thinking I need to have everything figured out right now, when in reality I don’t.
Next year I will be 25, and I honestly am nowhere near where I thought I was going to be at that age. 25 is the age I thought I would be married by, maybe even have had a kid by…obviously that was the younger more naive me (lol). Clearly I am not married, nor do I have a child, but when I was younger, I thought I would have it all together by this time. Am I the only one who used to think that your mid-twenties was really old? Yet here I am nearing this age with still no clue what I’m doing, wishing I could go back eight years to high school and curl up, watch some High School Musical and listen to some old school T-Swift. I actually still do this, guess I haven’t changed that much 😉
I have talked in a few of my posts about the fact that I have student loans, and that being a huge reason I decided to live at home once I graduated. I have been paying them for the past two years, and really haven’t found it to be that stressful at all. I have still been able to buy the things that I want to buy, and go on the trips that I want to go on. Now though, as I am getting older, I know I am eventually going to have to move out, but how will I be able to afford it? Especially with Orange County being ridiculously expensive! Will I just have to continue to live at home until I’m married? But that could be a 20 years from now…such stressful thoughts!
The point of this post is for us to realize that we may not know what we want to do next, or where we are going to be in the next year, but we can’t let the unknown stress us out. We need to trust that everything is going to happen how it’s supposed to, and that there is a time for every season (I will be writing a post more about that later!). I think more of us need to enjoy where we are at today. If you’re still living at home, enjoy not having to pay rent and getting a few meals made for you every week. Enjoy not having to pay for stupid things like toilet paper and laundry detergent. I think we all get so caught up in what we don’t have, and what we aren’t doing, that we forget to realize what we do have, and how awesome most of us do have it.
I’m a huge fan of the The Office, and I love this quote by Andy Bernard, “I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good old days before you’ve actually left them.” And it’s so true. I look back at college and think how I should have appreciated that time so much more than I did. But when I was there, all I could think about is how done I was with school and how I was just ready to start my career already. And I think the same is true today. I think it’s okay to be concerned for the future, we are only human, but doing so in a healthy way is so important. It’s awesome to have goals and aspirations for the future, I don’t think anyone should ever just be content with what they are currently doing, and that we should always strive to be better versions of ourselves. But, I also think we need to enjoy this time in our lives where we aren’t married with children, and with far more responsibilities and worries than we currently have. If we continue to stress, we are 100% going to look back when we are 40 wishing we had enjoyed our mid-twenties more.
I think that we need to trust that He has a plan for us, and that we are exactly where we are supposed to be right now. It may not be where we want to be, but it’s where we are supposed to be. So don’t worry about not having it all figured out right now, because honestly, most people don’t. Even the ones who are getting married and having kids. Believe me, most of them don’t have a clue about the future either! So let’s just enjoy where we are today. That fear of the future is always going to be there, but we aren’t always going to be able to enjoy our twenties.
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